QUOTE(DashSim @ Jan 9 2012, 05:29 PM)
It's a difficult thing to explain to anyone who hasn't experienced being trans, but people can feel how their bodies are supposed to be. The brain has expectations of what sort of parts the body is supposed to have. Someone whose brain's expectations of their body's sexual organs have never been out of alignment with their body may not even realize this. Trans people don't get the surgery due to insecurity, or vanity - it's because it's a disturbing and horrifying experience not to.
I never suggested vanity. You would say that insecurity plays absolutely no part, then? What you are telling me is that those who are transsexual are entirely secure in the body that they were born with, which nulls the entire point of a sex-change operation.
QUOTE(DashSim @ Jan 9 2012, 05:29 PM)
Human sexuality and gender is far too complicated for a statement like that to actually work. 'You both have the same naughty bits! You're gay!' sounds fine when you're viewing things in a sort detached, nebulous way but with how people actually interact with one another in real life this does not work in any practical way; this view is really oversimplified.
It is not a view or an opinion; it is definitively fact. To say otherwise is to attempt to counter fact with opinion, which does not work. I urge you to re-read what I previously said, as I spoke of attraction to genitalia, and not of emotional attachment, as it seems you thought.
QUOTE(DashSim @ Jan 9 2012, 05:29 PM)
This is an absolutely horrible belittlement of the pain, trauma and stress that people who are trans go through. One's body being out of sync with their internal expectation of it in the extreme way it can sometimes be with trans people is torturing. Transition should be covered everywhere; it is an ethical imperative.
No. I believe the well-being of people who have physical injuries to be of higher importance than someone's happiness with their own body.
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QUOTE(DavidReinold @ Jan 9 2012, 05:35 PM)
Have you considered that there are people out there who love for reasons OTHER than getting into someone's pants?
If someone's personality is distinctly effeminate, there is nothing homosexual about being in love with them. You like them for their feminine personality - that would still be hetero. If for you love and sex are the exact same thing, well...okay, for one thing I have a lot less respect for you, and for another, I should point out that sex isn't everything. Love without sex can exist, and it's a shame more people don't realize this.
As I said to DashSim, I spoke only of physical attraction to the genitalia. You seem to have misunderstood me greatly.
QUOTE(DavidReinold @ Jan 9 2012, 05:35 PM)
If you LEGITIMATELY love someone, you love them for who they are, not because you like their genitals.Well then...that's a problem with where you live, then. Most trans people I know would be more than willing to pay for the operation out of pocket. To imply that they're deliberately leeching tax dollars...I'm sorry, but that crosses into SO many more worlds of offensive implications. Welfare, for example. If you chose to argue in such a manner, you could imply that all people who are on welfare are trying to skate by with as little work as possible. It's not true of course, but certainly closer to the truth than saying that all trans people are leeching tax dollars.
I did not intend to sound as though I was grouping all transsexual people into that demographic. I apologize that it did.
QUOTE(DavidReinold @ Jan 9 2012, 05:35 PM)
Trans people have jobs, and they pay taxes just like anybody else. In a single lifetime, an average trans person will likely pay in taxes enough money to cover three such operations. And yet you want to call them leechers? I have nothing more to say to you.
I never called them leechers. Also, not all taxes go to operations, they go to a multitude of other things, so the fact that they pay that much (the same as any other person in their financial situation) is really irrelevant.
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QUOTE(Vaelstrom @ Jan 9 2012, 05:42 PM)
Perhaps I'm just interpreting this wrongly, but the bold sends up a red flag. You love somebody for who they are, the way they act, not because you want to have sexual intercourse with them.
Yes; this is true, but I could not love someone romantically if they were sexless. I cannot fully explain it, but I would feel absolutely no sexual desire for them, something that is a keystone in romantic relationships (whether it is admitted or not). That is not to say that I am a shallow bastard; moreover, I want the ability to have children, and I want to be able to have that bond with another person. In my opinion, there is no greater bond than that of creating a living creature with another person, one that is of and from the both of you.
QUOTE(Vaelstrom @ Jan 9 2012, 05:42 PM)
But that's a pedantic reading of the dictionary definition of homosexuality. Whether or not they have male genitals is irrelevant; if you love them as a female, and they present themself as female, then it's not homosexuality.
What I speak of is sexual attraction to the genitalia, nothing more. I am not speaking of romantic feelings. I cannot say for the romantic side of this, as I have not put enough time nor research into it, but if a person has a sexual attraction to the same genitalia that they have, then they are homosexual.
QUOTE(Vaelstrom @ Jan 9 2012, 05:42 PM)
EDIT: I'm not trying to attack you, and I'm sorry if it seems like I am.
You have no need to be sorry; I feel that you phrased everything politely and tactfully, and I have incurred no offense.
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QUOTE(DavidReinold)
If that boner of yours is your only compass, I'm allowed to find that just a LITTLE bit pathetic.
FOR f***S SAKE. Here is my reasoning (the same as I gave to Vaelstrom), and in the future I would ask that you do not judge my stance before understanding it.
"...I could not love someone romantically if they were sexless. I cannot fully explain it, but I would feel absolutely no sexual desire for them, something that is a keystone in romantic relationships (whether it is admitted or not). That is not to say that I am a shallow bastard; moreover, I want the ability to have children, and I want to be able to have that bond with another person. In my opinion, there is no greater bond than that of creating a living creature with another person, one that is of and from the both of you."
Edited by Ornlu, 09 January 2012 - 07:19 PM.