QUOTE(Beefster @ Jan 13 2012, 01:30 AM)
DR: maybe I don't understand this idea of an "internal gender," but if you're a tomboyish girl on the inside, doesn't that just make you male?
QUOTE(Beefster @ Jan 8 2012, 05:09 PM)
One thing I find odd about gender boundaries is how one-way they are. I've noticed that girls can do very boyish things without any social repercussions. They can wear men's clothing, (and often do) work with cars, play sports, and plenty of other "manly" things.
Yet, when men do girly things like picking flowers, baking cakes, wearing skirts, and watching shows about ponies, many people automatically assume that they're gay. It's ridiculous. (Not saying I would wear a skirt though, but that's more due to functional reasons.) At least it's acceptable for men to wear pink now.
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Girl who likes boyish things == Tomboy
Thank you, Beefster! You have just shown the class an excellent example of self-contradiction! But I should add...
Tomboy =/= FtM trans
Being tomboyish wouldn't reverse the process - gender identity goes much deeper than simply how you express yourself. It's your 'self-image'. It's who you see when you close your eyes and picture yourself. It's how you feel when you try to identify with one gender or the other. Another factor:
QUOTE(Russ @ Jan 13 2012, 01:50 AM)
That's why, in general, women are better at raising children than men: They're better at emotions, and they now to how to handle situations that call for them better than men. On the same token, men are often better suited for things women aren't, being able to make rational decisions with less influence from emotion.
Something like this would be an excellent red flag to someone questioning their internal gender - I tend to make almost ALL my decisions based on emotions. Of course, that's not my only tip-off, and in fact I hadn't even considered it until Russ pointed it out (thank you, Russ, I went from being 95% sure to 98% sure that I am
Kira transgender), but THIS is the sort of thing you're looking for on this issue.
In the end, though, it's what you feel. And even though I watch Yu Yu Hakusho and play Half-Life, that's not a relevant argument when considering internal gender.
Getting a warm fuzzy feeling when you ask people on an IRC you frequent to refer to you as female, and to call you by a female name - that's relevant.
QUOTE(Beefster @ Jan 13 2012, 01:30 AM)
Homosexuality is against my religion. I'm tolerant, but once again, it's a complicated issue. I recognize that it isn't a conscious choice to be gay, although you don't have to act on it. In a sense, it's God's lifelong trial for you if you're gay. Everyone gets trials, and they're different for everybody.
About looking past it: It's a complicated issue for me. In a religious context, it must be addressed. Keep in mind that I was raised in an environment where "gay" was very weird, so I still have some of those biases ingrained.
Colorado in the 90s sounds like it was in a completely different universe. For most people who grew up in the 90s, the message of 'be yourself' is ALL YOU WERE EVER TAUGHT. I don't know about you, but I stick to that message, and I encourage others to.
Now, before I stop typing this, I must add that Yoshimi made an excellent point: pardon my French, people don't give a flying f*** what YOUR religion thinks of them. Your Religion is telling YOU not to act on homosexuality, not to tell others not to. Nobody's seeking your approval, and if you're going to take a condescending attitude to the matter and treat the gay community like children who don't know any better, they don't have to respect you either.
Edited by DavidReinold, 14 January 2012 - 04:05 PM.