Altruism in a battlefield, is not that uncommon, in some aspects. You likely forget, that a soldier fights for a cause that he believes is right, or just. It doesn't matter if the rest of the world disagrees, but you, along with your comrades, believe in that cause. Those staging the war, are an entirely separate matter, and are motivated by different beliefs, and different goals, than the pawns in their game.
Any form of relationship, including personal, social, ant business, can become stale, if it is bound by endless repetition. It requires two people, with identical interests, to allow for endless cycles of the same; which is a rare thing to find, if possible at all, at all.
I frankly fell that in mist cases, physical intimacy precludes actual feelings of love, as the portions of the brain that govern boundless, and limitless kindness, compassion, and forgiveness; are shackled by those that govern anger, jealousy, and desire.
That's why it's so easy to love a cat (of for some, a dog, a rat,a snake, or a bird, etc.): Your don't need to worry about the ramifications of negative emotions. The levels of charm, and personality of an animal companion, allow you to form a link to it, that is above what you would have with many people; as the animal doesn't tire of your regular routine, and daily repetitions; or complain of them.
Even with my mates, there is often a large box. Compartmentalisation is something that I use, to a vast extent, in my life. That creates social cages, in which, people are only invested into portions of my life, my interests, and my history. In an intimate relationship, the other person is always trying to pick the locks between compartments, which is a stressful situation.
I quite frankly have never had much of an interest in being mates with all the mates of those that I know. It's pointless, as merely because I get along with Person-A, does not mean that I will mesh with everyone else that gets along with Person-A. More often, there are a few qualities about any single individual that I appreciate, and topics of interest that I will have in common, but other people that person knows, share different interests.
If you are expecting to be able to socialise with the friends of an intimate companion, on a regular basis, you can't have a rigid personality--as I do. I won't bend, flex, or transmute myself, to meet the expectations of others; nor shall I gain interests in topics that do not interest me, just to seem interested in their banter. Many people I've found, are seemingly shocked by my blatancy, in this regard, but I find it is better to get out of the way, the subject of any form of social conversion.
'Love', really means, that you are willing to put another person, or any other subject, first in your life, above your own concerns, and your own interests. I'm rather certain that I love my cats: I'd easily murder anyone who genuinely threatened them.
Would I take a bullet for someone, or something?
Would I murder to protect someone, or something?
If I can answer 'Yes.', to those questions, then I probably love them/it; intimacy, and sexuality notwithstanding.
I feel like I should write this down before I forget it. I've been dreaming recently and it's been really weird. I'm not very conscious at all while dreaming but then I mix up the dreams with actual reality when I wake up. And the dreams have been strange. In one I asked a random person what life was and I swear he replied, " A succession of various characters in a string" which I have never heard before. In another one, one of my friends showed me a solution to a problem I had in ZQuest a long time ago. The thing is that friend doesn't use ZQuest and I had never figured out the solution until unconscious in my dream. What the heck???
How does this work?
-Strike
Dreams are often the unconscious answer, to a question we have yet to ask. It's best to think of dreams, as the ability of the mind, to continue conscious, metaconscious, and imaginative thoughts, freed from the chains of daily life.
Edited by ZoriaRPG, 19 March 2014 - 03:39 PM.