I would agree that it is not an acceptable behavior. The fact that it has happened so many times in such a short period (with zero objection from surrounding parties) is disheartening, but I certainly would not say that it has become an acceptable practice. At least in my community, I find that people are significantly more cognizant of their language use in the discussion of bodyweight than they once were. I'm sorry that you have faced these comments with such regularity as of late.
People who remark on the weight of others are generally uninformed. When dealing with children, they are typically pretty receptive of new lessons and information. If this continues to be an issue, perhaps you can think of a reply that forces them to think about what they're saying; "That comment is inappropriate and hurtful. I am kind, smart, and you're a little piece of shi--"
hang on, what
Or perhaps turn to the parents and give them the opportunity to teach their children. "Could you please explain to your child why making comments about a stranger's weight is inappropriate?" Seriously, call that shit out. If they seem to be condoning it, pose a different question to them; "Why do you feel it is appropriate to discuss my body with your child?"
I realize all of this is easier said than done. I avoid conflict like it's the plague. But I've faced my fair share of side-eyes and whispers due to my appearance, my sexuality, and other insecurities, and I've found that the only thing that has stopped me from dwelling on such derogatory comments has been advocating for myself. Doing so in a way that is compassionate but firm gives others an opportunity to learn, and might give you more peace when walking away from those sour situations.
Should you have to do that? Absolutely not. It's not your job to educate people and it's frustrating that this conversation even needs to happen. But I always try to assume the best in others, and I like to think that many people would be embarrassed and willing to learn if approached in the right way.
Edited by Adem, 29 July 2018 - 09:50 AM.